Erotic Pole Poetry

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Erotic pole poetry… yeah it was as great experience. I had the pleasure of experiencing an erotic poetry open mic, hosted by 4plaync, which also featured pole dancing and musicians. Poets, from all ages, came out and shared their work on love, sex, sensuality, and relationships. Some of the highlights included pole dancing performed to spoken word. It was amazing to see the visual side while someone speaks their truth and heart.

 

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The crowd consisted of old, young, couples, and singles. Most of the poets were men, who spoke on meeting their loves, relationships, family, and life. I loved the blend of people sharing their experiences. Some people would thing erotic poetry was just about people sitting around talking about sex, but it is more than that. This was about people opening their hearts to the experience of connecting with someone else. The sharing of energy. The sharing of intimacy. Having your partner sitting there looking at you while you share you heart and soul about how they make you feel. Being able to translate feelings into words is an art. Being able to share those words with others is a gift.

I remember, years ago, poetry was an outlet for sharing my feelings. Poetry was my way of connecting with the one I loved. Somehow, over the years, I stopped writing, but this event changed me. It made me realize how much I love writing, poetry, and connecting with others. So, this year, I plan to write more, share more, and connect more. If you are a poet or writer, I would love to read your work, if you are willing to share.

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Healing the Village and Community

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Our village is hurting. It’s crying out for help. We are experiencing grief, depression, anxiety, and hopelessness. This leads to isolation and lack of communication. The village used to be a place where people could come to get information, education, rights of passages, and love. Now, it offers no words of encouragement, wisdom, or support.

There was a time when we all came together to do what is best for the community, for its people. To help look after each other, to feed the hungry, and support the dreams of the youth. There was a time when kids could approach the elders and get words of wisdom, but now they offer words of dread. There was a time when the hungry could go to corner store or the neighborhood grandmother and be offered food and comforting words, now he is turned away with words filled with hurt and hate. We used to look out for each other, now we turn a blind eye to the destruction of the community. We stopped communicating and now we’re deaf to the screams for help.

For so long, we’ve convinced ourselves we’re immune to the diseases and illnesses of the outside world. We’ve falsely believed depression, anxiety, and mental illness didn’t live in our homes. People laughed at the child, who showed signs of mental illness, for acting a little different. Instead of offering help, we offered ridicule. We protected the uncle, who molested the family members- telling everyone he was just being friendly. We allowed him, and others like him, to shatter the innocence and joy of youth. Instead of giving them justice, we gave them indifference. Instead of giving the one with big dreams the tools and wisdom to reach those dreams, we gave him negativity and doubt while laughing at his aspirations.

We are failing our community because we are scared to admit we need help and to get help. We’re afraid to communicate for fear of judgement and ridicule. The world we live in shames us for admitting we need help, have struggles, and for being less than perfect. We’ve built a mirage that life is always about being bigger, better, faster, flashier, more, more, more… We’ve no longer appreciate the little things in life, the small comforts, and gestures of love and hope.

The village has tried, for so long, to hide its hurt and pain behind this illusion and now it’s rearing its ugly head with a vengeance. The village is no longer able to care for and love the youth, because we don’t know how to care for and love ourselves. Love, wisdom, fun, and fellowship are no longer valued in the community. The sad part is, we know help is there, we’re just scared to seek it. How can we heal if we can’t admit we need help? How can give the youth hope for the future, when we can’t admit and get help for the hopelessness of the present? In order to heal, the village must admit it is sick. In order to heal, we must raise our voices and ask for help. Until we are able to do this, we will continue to suffer in silence.

Reclaim Your Voice

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It’s great to have friends, mentors, and people you can depend on.  It’s good to have someone to talk to, bounce ideas back and forth, or just converse with from time to time. That is the beauty of have wonderful people in your life.

One of the draw backs is you may start to lose your voice.  You start taking their advice so much that you no longer trust your instincts – your inner voice.  You start to repeat the things they say, act the same as them, and, in some cases, start to look like them. All of your ideas are what others told you they should be, and you no longer question what they say.  Even when having conversations with others, outside your circle, you find yourself repeating their ideas instead of your own.

It’s time to reclaim your voice.  Time to trust your intuition and ideas.  Time to be you.  This may take distancing yourself from these people, retreating into your safe place, and taking a deep look at what or who you have become and who you want to be.  Yes, I know it’s hard. I have been there before and it’s easy to let someone else make decisions for your life instead of voicing your opinion and following your instincts. But, it is so much more freeing and exciting to follow your inner voice and make your own decisions. It feels wonderful to know that you can make the right choices or wrong choice and still be you.  You don’t have to be a clone of your friends and mentors. Everything you need is inside you and once your realize it a whole new world awaits you. Own your life, own your decisions, and reclaim your voice.

Follow the Leader

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Stop it!  Stop letting others lead you to a place where you don’t want to be.  Whether it is a lover, family, friend, or boss.   Stop letting people make decisions for your life.  If you don’t want to do something, DON’T DO IT.  If you would rather spend the weekend at home, in your pajamas, eating tacos in bed, instead of going out with friends or family, DO IT.   If you want to simply work 9-5 and not strive to be a manager, then DO IT.

You are the only person who knows your needs, heart, and goals.  You are the only person who has to answer for the choices you make in your life.  You are the person who has to live with your decisions.  Stop playing follow the leader and become the leader.  Take control of your life.

 

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Wrong Turn, Right Path

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Just because you take a wrong turn doesn’t mean you’re not on the right path.  There are many side roads that take us to beautiful and scary places.  What you may feel is a wrong choice, in your path to growth, may just be what you need to understand your path more.

Nothing is always black and white or straight forward.  Side roads, mountains, oceans, and black holes are some of the “wrong turns” we encounter in life. Yes, they can be obstacles, but they are also lessons.  We encounter these things to make us stronger.  Take what you need, learn, process, and apply it to what you need to grow.  Leave what is not needed- you know the extra baggage.  Look for the beauty in these wrong turns and overcome your fears of the unknown.  The next part of your journey awaits you.

Is Your Community Serving Your Highest Good?

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On your journey to growth, success, and peace, you must surround yourself with a community, of people, who will support you and your vision.  Often times, when people set out on a journey or to complete a goal, they are not surrounded by a community who support them.   They may say it can’t be done, question your motives, or just turn their backs on you.  They may even spread their negativity to others causing even more negative energy to come your way.  Remember you can’t share your dream with everyone because everyone is not going to understand or see your path.

Don’t be afraid to walk away, from the people or things, that don’t serve your highest good.  The community, with whom you surround yourself, should be supportive, encouraging, loving, and nonjudgmental.  This does not mean they will agree with you on everything, but it does mean they will find supportive ways to help guide you.  They will be willing to communicate with you and not talk about you.   They will also call you out on your BS.  Remember, a supportive group helps you grow and growth involves facing some painful truths, letting go of safety nets, and stepping outside your comfort zone.

As you continue on your journey, take inventory of the people you have in your circle.  Are they supportive, loving, and encouraging?  Can you talk to them about what is going on in your life without fear of judgement?  Are they helping you identify the crutches holding you back or are they helping you make excuses as to why you can’t take that next step?  If your community is not serving your highest good, it’s time to find a new one.

When Your Well Runs Dry

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Has your well run dry?  Does it seem as if  you are out of ideas, inspiration, or motivation? Does it seem like everything you do yields no results? Have you lost your flow?

Sometimes, in life, we push ourselves too hard until we have used up all our resources.  Creative and highly motivated people have a tendency to push themselves to the limit.  We get so excite about a new project or endeavor, and we pour everything we have into it until we have nothing left to give.  The flow of creativity has stopped and all is left is dust.

Fear not, for this may not be a bad thing.  This is could be the Universe’s way of saying it’s time to stop and take a break.  Forcing the issue will not get your more reward, recognition, or growth but only make you more frustrated. Often times, we are more focused on the dreams we haven’t reached,  that we forget to appreciate what we  have accomplished.   Now is the time to sit back, take stock, and enjoy the fruits of your labor.   When it is time, to put in work again, you will know and inspiration will start to flow. Until then, enjoy the resting phase and take pride and joy in what you have already created.