What makes a good mentor?


This morning a friend and I were having a conversation about what makes a good mentor. He told me he was helping his son with a homework assignment and wanted my input on what makes a good mentor.

For me, a good mentor:

  1.  Guides the person he is mentoring so he makes decisions that are right for him and his circumstances.  The mentor does not make it about what he would do but instead focuses on what is best for the other person.

2.  Lets his student see he has flaws or shortcomings.  So many times people want to show the “perfect” side of them and hide the “flaws”.  The down side is the person you are mentoring may feel she can never live up to your expectations.  She can never be you because you are “perfect”.  Allow her to see you have flaws and shortcomings.  This can be an opportunity for her to teach you and help build her confidence in herself.

3.  Lets go of his ego.  A good mentor knows it is not about him.  The accomplishments or mistakes are not about the mentor but the student.  By letting go of the ego, the mentor is able to guide from wisdom not emotion.

4.  Uplifts and encourages.  Words matter.  Actions matter.  The mentor knows the words he chooses need to be encouraging and positive.  Even in the darkest of times there is always light.  Be the light.

5.  Knows when to step back and let go. A good mentor knows when the student is ready to fly on his own.  She does not stay longer than needed.  She does not become a crutch.  She knows when her job is done.

6.  Does not take credit for other’s accomplishments.  When it’s all said and done and the student has attained his goal, he will say I did it.  This is as it should be.  To quote Lao Tzu, “A leader is best when people barely know he exists, when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say: we did it ourselves.”

These are some qualities I think make a good mentor.  What do you think makes a good mentor?

Bam! Pow! Chow!


My love for food trucks is very deep. I had to visit Raleigh’s last food truck rodeo to fill my tummy.

The crab cakes from Bam Pow Chow were awesome.  The sauce they put on top was so good. Too bad I had to share because I could have eaten them both.

We tried the Thai Chili wings from Craven’ Asian and yes they were the business.  My sis got the dumplings and she loved them. She said they weren’t spicy at first but after you finished it had a kick to it.

Were also had shrimp and grits from Sarge’s but I have no idea what happened to the pics. Oh, and they had homemade strawberry lemonade that made you think grandma rolled the lemons and made it herself.

We wanted to try Pho Nomenal Dumplings but the line was so long and we did not want to wait an hour just for some dumplings.  They won The Great Food Truck Race and we wanted to see if they lived up to the hype. Plus, we love supporting local businesses.

The weather was beautiful. Not too hot with a nice breeze.  The kids had a great time doing sidewalk art.  All in all, it was a great day for a food truck rodeo.

If you have not been to a food truck rodeo, you should try it.  There is so much to choose from.  Most trucks don’t give a sample size so make sure you have someone to share the deliciousness with.

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Saturday Night



I have so many conversations going on in my mind. So many questions, answers, and excuses. I need to slow down, relax,  and breathe. I need some me time. So tonight it’s just me, a book, and my journal.

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Good Friends


I am blessed to be surrounded by supportive friends.   We do not see eye to eye on all issues, have the same religion, or values but we respect and support each other.  We understand there is a connection that brought us together and keeps us together.

On this day, we came to celebrate our friend, Marie (red shirt), birthday.  On this day, I made some new friends.  Beautiful intelligent woman, from various backgrounds, with whom I laughed and conversed with as if we have known each other for years.

There’s something special about meeting people you automatically connect with.  Someone you can enjoy a laugh, dinner, or conversation without having a guard up.  People who just enjoy life. Someone who instantly becomes a friend.